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Like most couples, you want to appreciate the security and comforts of a loving marriage, but even simple talks can become heated arguments when you disagree.
Nobody advised you that “communication can be tough, especially when hot topics arise—like money, sex, or parenting!” No one cautioned that you might still feel angry, hurt, or alone despite your best attempts.
Podcasts, reading books, date nights, grand romantic gestures, but nothing works. Every discussion seems to be a struggle. And talking about sensitive subjects like money, sex, or parenting can leave you feeling stuck and alone.
You’re aware, deep down, that you need to improve your communication. And if you don’t, you’ll either get divorced or live a life of agony, loneliness, or despair!
Unfortunately, research demonstrates that the average couple waits six years before seeking help with their marriage. (Yes… you read correctly… 6 long and agonizing years!)
You’ve waited long enough… Do yourself a favor. Don’t be average because you and your loving family deserves better. Reach out to a marriage counselor in Tustin, CA today.
I’m here to help and it’s less stressful and demanding than you think. Through marriage counseling I’ve been helping married couples in Tustin, CA restore their sense of family harmony for the past 22 years.
Regardless of the difficulties in your marriage, I want you to feel empowered with the knowledge and abilities you need to break free from those agonizing conversations and enjoy a more secure and lasting bond for life!
Right now, you can arrange a clarity call and take the first step toward transforming your marriage so you can relax and find more fulfilling ways of relating with each other. That brief call introduces you to my approach and helps us get to know one another. Once you experience how eager I am to help, you can relax and make an informed decision about how best to reclaim your connection and family harmony.
Call today and take advantage of my offer. I’ll take care of the rest because it takes just a few minutes and only requires you to disclose your first name—that’s it! After our call, I can be your go-to resource for marriage therapy when the time is right for you.
Anyone in our modern world will confirm that intimate relationships aren’t easy! Discussing topics like money, sex, parenting, leisure time, in-laws, spirituality, or the holidays can leave you feeling isolated and overwhelmed! Some of these emotional snarls are normal and healthy for growing as a couple. But for many, the pressures linked with these conversations have reached a boiling point where the relationship will most likely end if they don’t seek treatment. And, if they don’t, a lifetime of heartbreak, pain, and loneliness will become the norm in that relationship!
With marriage counseling, my goal is to provide a safe, warm, judgment-free zone so you can enjoy the comforts and security of a loving relationship. In short, marriage counseling is where you can learn to:
Although I’ve been seeing clients for more than 22 years, my experience has taught me the importance of starting fresh with each couple. I like to keep my marriage counseling simple, effective and well thought out. First, I help you identify measurable and observable goals. It gives me a better sense of your relationship’s unique values and qualities. For example, some couples say, “We want to increase the comforts and security of our relationship.” Others tell me, “By the end of therapy, we want to communicate more effectively.” And sometimes the goal is, “We want to become more united in our parenting and develop a more amicable separation agreement.” Identifying and understanding those objectives helps me develop a treatment plan so together, we can help you accomplish those goals as fast as possible.
Next, I invite each partner to share their concerns. For example, “We don’t communicate well. Instead, we get into heated arguments that make things worse.” Next, I help you develop mutually agreeable solutions that address BOTH concerns interfering with those goals. In the end, you get what you came for—a reduction in conflict as well as an increased sense of empathy, acceptance, and understanding in your relationship.
Most couples start searching for “marriage counseling near me” to get help during a challenging period in the relationship—like the birth of a child, a job change, or after moving in together. Rocky moments and rough patches in relationships are normal. However, it’s no secret that persistent relationship distress harms each romantic partner’s mental and physical wellbeing. For example, when simple conversations turn into heated arguments, you can feel angry, hurt, alone, or desperate for connection, safety, and security. Even more, relationship distress can have a profound impact on child development. In trying moments like these, it’s crucial to take that first step so you can start to turn things around in your relationship.
According to researchers who conducted a statewide survey in Oklahoma on marriage and divorce:
Accordingly, John Gottman—world-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction—the average couple waits six years before seeking professional help for marital problems. (Yes… you read correctly… 6 years)
You may be asking yourself, “Why wait so long?” Gottman suggests that it may be due to some of the social stigmas associated with marriage counseling:
Here are a few more facts:
If you are at a crossroads of divorce or a big break up, it can be tempting to feel like you must choose between two unpleasant options: ‘Do I divorce so that I can find happiness again? Or, do I stay together for the family’s sake and remain unhappy?’
Thankfully, there IS a third and better option: Marriage counseling or marrital therapy.
Research suggests that with proper guidance and the willingness of both partners, marriages that might end in divorce can become healthy, vibrant, and supportive again.
My 22 years of experience have helped me identify predictable and noteworthy signs demonstrating that you and your romantic partner may benefit from marriage counseling.
These signs can include any of the following.
If you can relate to any of the relational signs or signals listed above, let’s meet. I want you to feel empowered with the tools and skills you need to free yourself from those old patterns and enjoy a more secure and lasting bond in your relationship! I would love to be your guide. Contact me today to learn how marriage counseling can help.
Think of Marriage Therapy like car care. When you perform regular inspection and maintenance on your vehicle, it stays in good operating condition. Doing so helps avoid large and costly repairs down the road. Sometimes all you need is fresh oil and a little air in the tires, and the car runs great again!
In the same way, marriage counseling is essential because it helps couples slow down, take time out of their busy lives, and come together to address their growing marital concerns so they can nurture their relationship and keep it running smoothly. Seeing a marriage counselor has some key benefits:
Analyze Patterns
Set Realistic Expectations
Collaborator/Coach
Tools to Improve Communication
Accountability
However, if you are at a crossroads of divorce or a big break up, it can be tempting to feel like you must choose between two unpleasant options: ‘Do I divorce so that I can find happiness again? Or, do I stay together for the family’s sake and remain unhappy?’
Thankfully, there IS a third and better option: Marriage counseling or therapy.
Research suggests that with proper guidance and the willingness of both partners, marriages that might end in divorce can become healthy, vibrant, and supportive again.
My 22 years of experience have helped me identify predictable and noteworthy signs demonstrating that you and your romantic partner may benefit from couples counseling.
These signs can include any of the following.
If you can relate to any of the relational signs or signals listed above, let’s meet. I want you to feel empowered with the tools and skills you need to free yourself from those old patterns and enjoy a more secure and lasting bond in your relationship! I would love to be your guide. Contact me today to learn how marriage counseling can help.
Therapy can make a big difference in your life. The healing that you experience and the changes you can make will impact not only you, but your family and future generations as well. Although therapy can seem expensive, when it is understood as an investment, it is truly an investment in you, the health of your relationship, and your future of those you call important!
Feel free to check out my fee structure.
The short answer? I take pride in doing good therapy. I like to work myself out of a job. The long answer? Every person’s circumstances are unique to them. The length of time it takes to achieve your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment to therapy, and the social factors that can interfere with therapy—things like work, parenting, and life. Put another way, it depends on your needs and varies a lot from one couple to another. Some couples feel they get most of the value after just a few weeks, while others prefer to stick to the program for an extended period of time. The duration of time for couples therapy is completely up to you.
For many romantic partners, marriage counseling signals their alarm. In response, you might feel frustrated or confused when your partner doesn’t want to go to couples therapy. Rest assured that there are several options you can take: reading a self-help book together or alone, attending a couples workshop, going to counseling alone, or attending couples counseling online, or in person.
Of course, you desire is for couples counseling. For starters, let’s try collaboration because it’s important to understand what’s interfering with your partner’s desire to attend couples counseling.
In this article, I outline 3 steps to follow when your partner resists going to couples counseling.
Virtually, each week I receive emails or voicemails from unhappy couples who have attended upwards of a year in counseling. So I ask…
The response? “Well… there was a lot of venting…but things haven’t really changed. I’m not sure if our therapist was a good fit for us.”
My experience over the years has taught me that the most critical question you want to answer in couples therapy is why do I want to go, and what do I want from therapy. Your answer may be as simple as, “I want to feel better, or relate better” but being able to share that with your therapist will help both of you determine if it’s a good fit.
As a result, your next step is to take some time to…
Think about it… Do you want to:
For example, do want someone who:
Lastly, it’s time to schedule a phone consultation with a marriage counselor or marital therapist. This call will help you investigate things like your therapist’s voicemail response time, availability, cost, and how many therapy sessions to expect. Most importantly, the call should help you determine the degree to which you feel comfortable. This call is like trying out a new shoe before you buy it. While you’re on the call, ask yourself:
During that call, your marriage counselor should be an open line of communication. In your first session, you’ll be laying the groundwork for what you want to work on. Don’t be afraid to push back if something doesn’t feel right to you. Even more, if something doesn’t feel right, you’re under no obligation to continue seeing that person. Rest assured, therapy won’t always feel amazing, but you should always feel emotionally safe, understood, and accepted as a couple.
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